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#SorryImNotSorry

 When I was asked to write a blog for the Love Your Body Blog Carnival, I was stumped as to what I could possibly write about. I can point out a million things that are wrong with the media when it comes to perpetuating gender stereotypes and promoting appearance standards. But these things have all been written about many times before - even by me in various gender studies classes in college.

So, for inspiration I went on Twitter. As I was grazing the multitude of nonsensical and random tweets and hashtags, I stumbled upon the hash tag #skinnygirlproblems.

As I was looking through her feed, I realized that the majority of her tweets had to do with either looking fabulous that particular day (#thankgodforgoodhairdays), her diet of the day (“Red bull and shopping for lunch”) or some judgmental comment referring to others, (“Now that it’s cold out, I hope lumpy girls don’t go back to wearing leggings as pants”).

Reading these words of wisdom inspired me to search elsewhere for equally offensive tweets. FYI readers: there is a Twitter handle- @skinnygrlprblms. To my disbelief there is a person (or people) dedicated to perpetuating “skinny girl” stereotypes. Let me lend a few examples of some fascinating tweets: “These size 2s make my butt look big,” “I’m so sick of pretzels and gum #skinnygirlproblems,” “Every time I eat an apple I look pregnant #skinnygirlproblems.” Yep, they’re this good.

So I ask you: Are their words an expression of their own insecurities, or are they this self-involved and egotistical? If it’s the latter- is it bad to love your life made up of #skinnygirlproblems? Is it dangerous to project these opinions onto others? If these women truly only spends their time with people who are equally as skinny and stylish as they are (“I'm really glad that I have an equally skinny and stylish roommate. #OpenClosetPolicy”), then their words couldn’t possibly be hurtful, right? Wrong. Excessive bragging about the amount of weight one girl is losing in an unhealthy manner, will eventually rub off on someone she will never suspect. Maybe it will be her little sister, maybe her roommate, or maybe it will be the girl in her class wearing the leggings that actually did hear her mocking her from the back of the room.

I say this because no matter how old you are or what stage of your live you’re in; these tweets have the potential to hurt and affect us. This type of talk is dangerous and troublesome to women’s health. We need to love our own bodies without degrading other women’s at the same time.

I’m not a size two and I never will be. Heck, I’m not even a size four. But I love myself and am content with my body. To steal a popular hash tag- #SorryImNotSorry.

 

This post is part of the 2011 Love Your Body Day Blog Carnival.

Comments

I didn't read the Tweets, but....

I only read what you have here, but this sounds more like people making fun of skinny girls than actual skinny girls. I am not a skinny girl, and haven't been since before puberty, but I know that there are people who are resentful of women that are skinny for whatever reason, and project these attitudes on all skinny girls. I think this sort of thing is just as unfair and just as judging as people who make fun of fat people. I could be wrong, and we do know there are girls that starve themselves in these ways, but that isn't true of all skinny girls.

Also, while not denying that this sort of behavior from a skinny girl is hurtful, I do kind of feel bad for a girl that invests this much energy in being skinny and valued for it. They must want to eat sometimes! And the pressure to maintain that level of weight is intense, especially in our culture that feels the need to comment on women's bodies all the time. I am glad that I don't spend all of my time worrying about what other people think about my body (although I am not totally free from it--but I can usually talk myself down pretty quickly).

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