Share Your Story: The Flip Side of the Coin
How have domestic programs helped you or someone you know? Why is it important to you that Congress protect these programs?
- Head Start makes it possible for me to go to work, knowing that my daughter is cared for, safe and getting a jump start on her education.
- Without unemployment insurance, my family and I would never have been able to make our rent payment when I lost my job.
- I worked for 30 years, and Social Security has helped me stay afloat in retirement, without leaning too hard on my children for support.
- Medicaid and Medicare together provide my aging mother with the range of care she needs, including her long term care services.
Irresponsible spending cuts are threatening domestic programs that support low-income people like Social Security, Medicaid, Head Start, child care assistance, family planning, Pell Grants, housing assistance, maternal and child health care, Medicare, and unemployment insurance, and more. We know that cuts to these programs will have an extraordinarily harmful effect on women and families across the country. It's a price we can't afford to pay.
Hedge fund managers and CEOs with corporate jets are one side of the coin. The rest of us are the Flip Side of the Coin.
Please share with us how domestic programs have helped you and your family.
Please note: The views expressed in the stories below are those of the authors themselves and do not necessarily reflect the opinions of the National Women's Law Center. All statements of fact in these stories have been provided by the individual authors, and the National Women's Law Center cannot and does not vouch for their accuracy. The Center will compile the stories and may use them, in whole or in part, in our advocacy efforts.
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Your Stories
Mariana Moculescu
Bucharest, Romania, Actress
Thank you! This case became public in Romania. Mariana Moculescu was denigrated by her daughter's father, a famous musician of pop music in Romania. The father of her daughter, Horia Moculescu, said in newspapers and television about Mariana Moculescu, the mother of his daughter, she is a prostitute. Do you have e-mail?Mariana MoculescuPRESS RELEASEConsidering that in several TV shows from TV station PRO TV, in which Mrs. Mariana Moculescu was invited as a guest, her right to a public image was violated, being discriminated and humiliated, Mrs. Mariana Moculescu through her lawyer Attorney at Law Florica Ciutacu PhD, had started the legal proceedings against TV show ”Happy Hour” producer Mr. Catalin Maruta, as well as against national TV channel PRO TV.Also, Mrs. Mariana Moculescu will file, through her lawyer, a criminal complaint against the TV producer Mr. Catalin Maruta, as well as against the legal entity PRO TV for fraud and discrimination.Given the frequent practices of discrimination used more and more in mass-media arrangements from Romania, Mrs. Mariana Moculescu calls for the support of international media and also the support of the organizations defending the human rights, to receive a fair and objective treatment from the media from Romania and as well as from competent entities which should monitor such slippages on journalistic approach, in terms of some cases which violate the international human rights law.We mention that this case of Mrs. Mariana Moculescu presents a unique complexity regarding the right to a public image as well as her other non-patrimonial rights, Mrs. Mariana Moculescu being in this moment in legal confrontation with several media institutions from Romania, such as: PRO TV, Antena 1, CanCan Tv and others.
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Trina Fletcher
prattsburg, NY,
IM NOT SURE WHERE I WOULD BE TODAY WITHOUT Medicaid and child care assistance. I became a single mother early in my sons life. I had no choice to get help where I could back then. His father had become a missing person who jumped state and I could not afford many things let alone housing. Healthcare and childcare I worked full time and still could not make ends meet. My son was a recipient until the age of 15. His dad paid up his birthing and confinement and 20.000.00 child support.
I am now remarried and have 2 beautiful children. I am now a parent educator wishing my son had been involved in head start. I had a wonderful daycare subsidy for my son. I only had to pay $1.00 a week working full time back then. We live in the same school district and we have a 2 parent income. Its unfortunate that daycare prices are beginning to be out of my income. This summer I will be paying $36.00 a day. It concerns me that I cannot find quality care in my area and have to pay all balances by June to get summer care. Unsure of the position of a hard working married couple struggling to make ends meet.
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Erika Elkins
Portland, ME, thankfully - retired
I sued judges who have covered up the theft of my inheritance (since 2002), was thrown into jail (9 1/2 months) and had my 18-year home taken from me - in the "hopes" I'd drop the federal lawsuit, filed in 2009 here in Portland. I didn't give in. (Simply put: FL District Judges have no jurisdiction over a Maine resident. And covering up theft is a crime, which not even judges can get away with. Thanks to a US Supreme Court's decision - fraud upon the court is fraud - I can't loose!)Without my Social Security income and subsidized housing - this millionaire would be on the streets.But - I have God - the Constitution - and U.S. Supreme Court behind me and am confident this will be won.And when it is, I plan to support your fine mission and any other worthy causes available to assist womenand to raise our voices for (my daughters, my grand-daughters) every women! Erika
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asma
lynchburg, virginia, financial
I worked in another state and had no problems with services, however when i moved myself back to Lynchburg , Virginia. This town has so many problems with people getting services and everywhere you turn , they turn the other cheek as if they don't know you. Congress should pass a law that small towns are not excluded from obeying the laws of the US Constitution. Any minority group or persons can not be turned down for services no matter who they are. Shame on Lynchburg. There are many people in this town who had problems obtaining services. So they should speak up and Complain!!!!!!!!!! open the public's problems to Congress and local government officials.
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Claudia Bertrand
Vernon, CT, Disabled
I worked in corporate America for 28-30 years. I paid into Social Security and Medicare for all of those years. In 2000 I was diagnosed with severe lumbar stenosis. Due to the fact that I already had a 90 degree scoliosis no surgeon would even dare operate on my back for the painful stenosis. I tried medications, land and water physical therapy, and injections in my spine, but nothing would take away the terrible nerve pain I was experiencing.In 2005, after struggling to work every day for four to five years, my doctors insisted that I apply for Social Security Disability. After 18 months I finally was approved for SSD in 2005. I now depend on SSD for my income. And living in CT, one of the most expensive states in the union, it is not easy to make ends meet.I also now depend on Medicare for my only medical insurance option, because I cannot afford private health insurance with my SSD income.I do not have cable TV because I cannot afford it. I only have a cell phone for emergencies and do not use it on a regular basis, again because I cannot afford it. Some months I have to put food on my credit card because I cannot afford to buy food until I received my SSD again the next month.People like myself should not have to suffer even more with future cuts to Social Security because our government used the Social Security fund for other items. If the government had left the Social Security money for Social Security payments for people who have put into Social Security, we would not be in the mess we are in now.We need to fight these cuts with all the might we have! The government stole our money that we put into the Social Security system, and now we are being penalized? If I had put that money into a retirement account I would be living far better than I am today. But it is a mandatory law that you MUST put into Social Security. Thus it should also be mandatory that the government provide us with our SS income!!Bad management on the part of the government of the Social Security fund should not translate into making the senior and disabled population the scapegoats!!
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DIANA AND TOM MULLER
WHITSETT, NORTH CAROLINA, TEACHER AND ENGINEER
IF WE SAT IN CONGRESS AND HAD AIDES TO HELP US ...WE COULD HAVE WAITED TO 70 YEARS OLD TO RETIRE. IT TOOK LONGER AND LONGER TO GET READY TO TRAVEL TO WORK. WITH A BAD BACK AND OTHER HEALTH PROBLEMS...TEACHING WAS TOO DIFFICULT WALKING UP AND DOWN STAIRS WITH CHILDREN....4 FLIGHTS IN MY SCHOOL....MY HUSBAND WAS UNABLE TO KEEP DRAWING OR FABRICATING ----HIS HANDS DID NOT WORK WELL ANY MORE...................i MADE IT TO 65 AND HE MADE IT TO 66..................THANK GOODNESS WE HAD MEDICARE!!! WE WERE ANGRY THAT AS WE APPROACHED RETIREMENT THE AGE FOR US WAS RAISED TO 66 FOR ME AND 67 FOR MY HUSBAND....WE STARTED PAYING..... EXPECTING TO MAKE IT TO 65..............NEVER REALIZED HOW HARD IT WOULD GET OLDER ..... WHEN WE WERE YOUNGER!!!!! RAISE THE CAP!!! FOR SOCIAL SECURITY...RAISING THE AGE HURTS WORKERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Leslie Hoffman
Mission Hills, CA, Disabled Stuntwoman
I am a disabled stuntwoman, who has been trying to find an Advocate to help me with my situation. I was injured at work and should be getting Occupational Disabiity from my SAG-Producer Plan. They are denying me this Plan because they say my Social Securtiy Award Letter does not say I was injured at work. First off Social Security does not affix blame as to how one was injured, they only decide that a Person IS disabled. Also Social Securty in their computers list two on my injuries but in the Award Letter they only state one of the disabilities. I have tried to get Social Security to right their mistake. THEY WILL NOT DO THIS and in fact have "lost" my application requesting an Appeal Hearing. I sent this to them by Return Reciept Requested, they DID receive my request. That was a year ago. I sent them another this year and still hae not heard from them.In the meantime the Health Plan perjured themselves to a Federal Judge and won a Summary Judgement.I have been trying to find an Advocacy Group to help me. So far I have been unable to find one. Do you know who any Organization that helps the Disabled or Women?
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Catherine H
Piscataway, NJ,
During my working years, I participated in the employee-sponsored retirement programs and paid my taxes. I never minded contributing to the social safety net. Surprise! Wall Street took away much of my nest egg several times over the years. Social Security is the only reliable source of income for me. Now Wall Street wants to take that, too, with sneaky behind the scene political schemes. As a retiree, Social Security and Medicare keep me from overburdening my children and others . Keep Social Security, Medicare and Medicare strong and solvent!
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LU
, CA, retired teacher, salesperson
I too am a senior relying solely on SS income for my retirement. I had a very small retirement fund as a teacher but had to cash it out when I was broke and homeless.Now I do have a home but just barely, I'm 67 and not able to afford things like: cable TV (the only TV available in my area), internet connections (I use the public library for 1 hour when they are open)--they are closed more now because of financial crisis. I don't have enough cash to fix anything that breaks in my home or on my car...Speaking of which, the gas prices make driving very special now. This isolates me further! I live in a small town in N. Calif. and need to have friends! Most of my friends I left behind in a more urban environment when I moved here....I could not afford more cuts in my income! I rely on free food for once a day meals now as it is!Don't cut my SS any further!!
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Rachel WS
Narragansett, Rhode Island, Tattoo Artist/Executive Administrator for Sociologists for Women in Society (SWS)
I wrote the following, which I used and handed out when I testified at the Rhode Island State House for the Rhode Island Poverty Institute. Unfortunately, the bill did not pass, and I still find myself "trapped." It is very frustrating, and I am not sure how to get this issue examined on a larger level. I find myself getting ready to refuse a raise again this fall, and would appreciate any assistance in getting this issue on the table. It effects SO many women and children, and I rarely hear it being talked about.Thank you for your time and consideration, and thank you for all you do.~Rachel ************************************************************House Finance CommitteeHearing on H5206Testimony of Rachel ******April 12, 2011 Chairman Melo and Members of the Committee: My name is Rachel **********, and I am testifying here today in support of Representative Diaz’s Bill, H5206 . Please let me begin by introducing myself. I am a resident of ********, Rhode Island. I have a Bachelors Degree, and taught High School for several years after College. Currently I am the Executive Administrator for a large, international non-profit, called ************, as well as a licensed Tattoo Artist. More importantly, I am a single mother of two children. My daughter is six and my son is three. Until two years ago, I had no experience with any of the state’s public benefit programs. I lived the “American Dream:” was married with two children, owned and operated a contracting business with my husband, was a homeowner, and was generally doing very well and living a comfortable life. Unfortunately, life has its own ideas and often doesn’t go as planned. Within a matter of one day, my life as I knew it fell apart. I left my husband and suddenly found myself a single mother of two very young children. Having been a stay-at-home-mom for four years, I had no employment outside the home. Additionally, due to the unfortunate circumstances of my situation, I was also left with literally NO money to my name. Finding myself in a desperate situation, I quickly and humbly became acquainted with several state benefit programs that are set up to help people in my position. Programs that were described as “stepping-stones.” Despite the difficult economic timing (my divorce coincided with the beginning of the economic fallout,) I was able to find a job. I worked at Pick Pockets selling falafel and working the cash register, and fortunately the job allowed me the flexibility to be available as the custodial parent. I continued to diligently hunt for a job that would utilize my college education and skills. Soon, I found the position that I currently hold at ****** as the Executive Administrator. Although I was grateful to have the Rhode Island Works cash assistance program as a last resort at first, the payment is so tiny that we could not live on it. Thus I was very happy to get a job that allowed me to no longer need Cash Assistance. However, even with this job, I still needed Child Care Assistance and Rite Care Health Insurance. I soon found that even with these supports, I was unable to make ends meet on the wages of these two jobs alone. I picked up a third job at night as a cocktail waitress. Although I STILL couldn’t exactly make ends meet, the third job brought me closer and allowed me to stay off of any further state assistance.However, soon after I began working the third job, I was informed by the state that I no longer qualified for the Child Care Assistance Program. I was making roughly $100 over the eligibility limit each month. That is $25/week too much. I was told that I would no longer receive Child Care Assistance. With the Child Care Assistance, I paid $50/week for childcare for my two children in day care; when I was no longer eligible for the program, my child care costs would have gone up to $330/week. That is $1320 a month! I did not earn nearly enough money to be able to pay for childcare on my own. I was faced with a difficult decision - to either quit the third job, not be able to make ends meet, but still receive the Child Care Assistance - or keep the three jobs and be cut off from the Child Care Assistance, leaving me unable to even pay for daycare (let alone rent, food, car loan and other necessary expenses.) Finding myself stuck between a rock and a hard place, I opted to quit the cocktail waitress job and remain on the Child Care Assistance Program. This left me charging groceries on my credit card and borrowing money to pay rent each month. I find myself going deeper and deeper into debt. My instincts drive me to want to be successful, independent, and financially responsible. I want to be working my hardest to get out of the position I am in, however I have been forced into a place where I can only work jobs that keep me close to the poverty level. I resigned myself to the notion that I would have to wait until both of my children are in school full time before I could reach the level of success that I strive for. Only then would the burden of affording full time daycare be lifted off of me. To further compound my problem, my employer offers annual raise reviews. Sadly, I cannot even accept a minimal raise, as it would put me above the Child Care eligibility limit. I cannot make a DOLLAR over the limit or I get cut off of Child Care Assistance. This literally traps people such as myself in near-poverty. This system is fatally flawed…it does not serve its purpose as a stepping-stone. Moreover, it feels like it is set up to keep people in their respective places. Representative Diaz’s bill would allow me to earn up to $8,000 extra a year without losing my child care subsidy. This would make a huge difference for me and my family.I was raised to believe that if one works hard, one can accomplish anything. I have felt very isolated and extremely frustrated with this issue for several years now, however it affects SO MANY people like my children and I. If this program were to be set up in the manner described in this bill, it would transform it from a system of entrapment to the stepping-stone it is supposed to be. Not only would the quality of life improve for so many families like mine, it would allow people to work hard to get to the point where they eventually don’t need child care assistance anymore. Everybody wins. I just want to work hard. Hard work should be rewarded, not penalized. Please consider what this bill means for so many people. I do not want to remain a statistic. Thank you very much for your time.
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