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Share Your Story: The Flip Side of the Coin

How have domestic programs helped you or someone you know? Why is it important to you that Congress protect these programs?

  • Head Start makes it possible for me to go to work, knowing that my daughter is cared for, safe and getting a jump start on her education.
  • Without unemployment insurance, my family and I would never have been able to make our rent payment when I lost my job.
  • I worked for 30 years, and Social Security has helped me stay afloat in retirement, without leaning too hard on my children for support.
  • Medicaid and Medicare together provide my aging mother with the range of care she needs, including her long term care services.

Irresponsible spending cuts are threatening domestic programs that support low-income people like Social Security, Medicaid, Head Start, child care assistance, family planning, Pell Grants, housing assistance, maternal and child health care, Medicare, and unemployment insurance, and more. We know that cuts to these programs will have an extraordinarily harmful effect on women and families across the country. It's a price we can't afford to pay.

Hedge fund managers and CEOs with corporate jets are one side of the coin. The rest of us are the Flip Side of the Coin.

Please share with us how domestic programs have helped you and your family.

Please note: The views expressed in the stories below are those of the authors themselves and do not necessarily reflect the opinions of the National Women's Law Center. All statements of fact in these stories have been provided by the individual authors, and the National Women's Law Center cannot and does not vouch for their accuracy. The Center will compile the stories and may use them, in whole or in part, in our advocacy efforts.

Your Stories



 After 9 years in marriage with my hubby with 3 kids, my husband started going out with other ladies and showed me cold love, on several occasions he threatens to divorce me if I dare question him about his affair with other ladies, I was totally devastated and confused until a old friend of mine told me about a spell caster on the internet Dr Osorba who help people with the relationship and marriage problem by the powers of love spells, at first I doubted if such thing ever exists but decided to give it a try, when I contact him, he helped me cast a spell and within 24hours my husband came back to me and started apologizing, now he has stopped going out with ladies and he his with me for good and for real. Contact this great spell caster for your relationship or marriage problem at .Goodluck  Christiana.



TX, Texas, self employed

My name is Angela and am from USA, I want to use this opportunity to thank my great Doctor who really made my life a pleasurable one today. This great man Dr Osorba brought my husband back to me, i had two lovely kids for my husband, about four years ago i and my husband has been into one quarrel or the other until he finally left me for one lady. I felt my life was over and my kids thought they would never see their father again. I tried to be strong just for the kids but i could not control the pains that torments my heart, my heart was filled with sorrows and pains because i was really in love with my husband. Every day and night i think of him and always wish he would come back to me, until one day i met a good friend of mine that was also in a situation like me but her problem was her ex-boyfriend who she had an unwanted pregnancy for and he refused to take responsibility and dumped her. she told me that mine was a small case and that i should not worry about it at all, so i asked her what was the solution to my problems and she gave me this great man’s email address. I was doubting if this man was the solution, so i contacted this great man and he told me what to do and i deed them all, he told me to wait for just 48 hours and that my husband will come crawling on his kneels just for forgiveness so i faithfully did what this great man asked me to do and for sure after 48 hours i heard a knock on the door, in a great surprise i saw him on his kneels and i was speechless, when he saw me, all he did was crying and asking me for forgiveness, from that day, all the pains and sorrows in my heart flew away, since then i and my husband and our lovely kids are happy, that’s why i want to say a big thank you to Dr Osorba Spiritual Temple. This great man made me to understand that there is no problem on earth that has no solution so please if you know that you have this same problem or any problem that is similar, i will advise you to come straight to this great man. You can email him at: you can also visit his blog on



london, LN, caterer

My Name is Joelen , From United Kingdom. I wish to share my testimonies with the general public about what this man called Dr Osorba has just done for me , this man has just brought back my lost Ex husband to me with his great spell, I was married to this man called Steven we were together for a long time and we loved our self’s but when I was unable to give him a child for 2 years he left me and told me he can’t continue anymore then I was now looking for ways to get him back until a friend of mine told me about this man and gave his contact email then you won’t believe this when I contacted this man on my problems he prepared this spell cast and bring my lost husband back, and after a month I miss my month and go for a test and the result stated am pregnant am happy today am a mother of a baby girl, thank you once again the great OKIJA for what you have done for me, if you are out there passing through any of this problems listed below pleas contact him:1) If you want your ex back.(2) if you always have bad dreams.(3) You want to be promoted in your office.(4) You want women/men to run after you.(5) If you want a child.(6) You want to be rich.(7) You want to tie your husband/wife to beyours forever.(8) If you need financial assistance.(9) How you been scammed and you want to recover you lost moneyHE IS THE BEST PROBLEM Solver. CONTACT Dr Osorba VIA MAIL or visit hos blog at


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NJ, New Jersey,

My name is Angela I was diagnosed of this deadly disease a friend of mine introduce Dr Osaze of OOSA SPELL HOME to me and I actually did contact him after he has prepare what he said he will do he sent it to me and I used it according to his prescription after one week I went to the hospital to check my status again because I was feeling differently from the way I used when I was tested positive to my greatest surprise the status was negative the dr there was surprise and I have to tell the whole world about this if you are having this similar problem I recommend Dr osaze for you here is his contact or you can simply call him on +2347059497969


Nyla Jebousek

, OR, attorney (disabled/inactive)

I am a child abuse survivor.  I married in 1969 at 17 (I think he saw me as a way to avoid VN), and at 19 was on AFDC, shortly after having my first child, when my husband was in 4 months active duty with the National Guard and the government paid no spousal benefit.  I went back on AFDC after my second child, and leaving my first husband, at 21, until I was 29, taking care of my kids full time.  My son attended Head Start in 1976.  I went back to work full time in 1980 when both my kids were in school full time.  In 1983 I suffered occupational disease from work activities, and enrolled in a retraining program, earning my AAS in 4 terms.  My job had been meanial and paid poorly, but I did not work nights and weekend so I could b be around my kids when they were not in school.  That was 2 more years in evaluation and school, with a low workers' compensation replacement wage rate.  I worked one year as a paralegal until my wage subsidy was exhausted and my job eliminated.  I struggled to find work with my disabilites, kept taking classes part time with my pell grants, was attacked by my ex-husband and hospitalized with 2 back surgeries, and took temporary work with the US Census Bureau and a local governmental agency.  My unemployment benefits were dismal but crucial.  In 1990 I got my first permanent paralegal employment representing injured workers until 1993.  I attended the University of Oregon on my lunch hour.  In 1993 I remarried,and with my husband's insistence, returned to school full time, finished my BA in 1994 and started law school the next week.  My children were both in college at the same time as I continued my attendance.  I also took on the case of my mother--in-law, who was suffering elder abuse at the hands of her step son and son.After law school I became an Amercorps attorney at Legal Aid, representing women exclusively in DV/SA civil cases - restraining and stalking orders, child custody cases etc.  After finishing my service, I started my own private practice representing injured workers and DV/stalking cases.  My husband, disappointed in my financial performance, divorced me at age 50.  I was exhausted and later discovered I have chronic fatigue syndrome and fibromyalgia.  I am now on Social Security Disability.  I cannot get a spousal SS benefit from my exhusband because he divorced me before we had been married for 10 years, so he would not be responsible for spousal support.  He left me unemployed ( I had to move to another town and start my practice again) and unemployable.  I feel like I have been doing my best and hanging on by my fingernails my whole life, only to be left in poverty, as I started out.  $.77 cents on the dollar, or less, my whole life (my daughter too), time off for child care, injuries, school/retraining, and abandonment.  Now the State of Oregon has started charging 6% compound interest on my deferred property taxes (they are way too high in OR due to low corporate tax rates) so I am in a tug of war with the state over my home and trying to leave something for my daughter, who is getting $.77 cents on the dollar, has huge student loans and works with foster kids, and for my son.  I remember when welfare allowed moms to be full time homemakers, so you could stretch your food stamp dollars by raising a garden and making food from scratch.  Who has time for that after working full time?  The social safety net has saved me all along the way, barely, and I have tried to give back.  If the length of marriage for spousal benefit was shortened to 8 years (how many men have done what my ex did to avoid spousal support?), or credit was given for 20 years cumulative (I have over that for 3 marriages) and a choice for the highest benefit, my life would change.  I could afford to pay my property taxes and every winter would not be a challenge to heat my home. Is this something you would consider adding to H.R. 1374: Social Security Enhancement and Protection Act of 2013? I wonder how common my situation is. Probably more common than I can imagine. Thanks for reading this.


Trina Fletcher

prattsburg, NY,

IM NOT SURE WHERE I WOULD BE TODAY WITHOUT Medicaid and child care assistance. I became a single mother early in my sons life. I had no choice to get help where I could back then. His father had become a missing person who jumped state and I could not afford many things let alone housing. Healthcare and childcare I worked full time and still could not make ends meet. My son was a recipient until the age of 15. His dad paid up his birthing and confinement and 20.000.00 child support.
I am now remarried and have 2 beautiful children. I am now a parent educator wishing my son had been involved in head start. I had a wonderful daycare subsidy for my son. I only had to pay $1.00 a week working full time back then. We live in the same school district and we have a 2 parent income. Its unfortunate that daycare prices are beginning to be out of my income. This summer I will be paying $36.00 a day. It concerns me that I cannot find quality care in my area and have to pay all balances by June to get summer care. Unsure of the position of a hard working married couple struggling to make ends meet.


Erika Elkins

Portland, ME, thankfully - retired

  I sued judges who have covered up the theft of my inheritance (since 2002), was thrown into jail (9 1/2 months) and had  my 18-year home taken from me - in the "hopes" I'd drop the federal lawsuit, filed in 2009 here in Portland.  I didn't give in. (Simply put:  FL District Judges have no jurisdiction over a Maine resident. And covering up theft is a crime, which not even judges can get away with.  Thanks to a US Supreme Court's decision - fraud upon the court is fraud - I can't loose!)Without my Social Security income and subsidized housing - this millionaire would be on the streets.But - I have God - the Constitution - and U.S. Supreme Court behind me and am confident this will be won.And when it is, I plan to support your fine mission and any other worthy causes available to assist womenand to raise our voices for (my daughters, my grand-daughters) every women! Erika  



lynchburg, virginia, financial

I worked in another state and had no problems with services,  however when i moved myself back to Lynchburg , Virginia.   This town has so many problems with people getting services and everywhere you turn , they turn the other cheek as if they don't know you.   Congress should pass a law that small towns are not excluded from obeying the laws of the US Constitution.  Any minority group or persons can not be turned down for services no matter who they are.  Shame on Lynchburg.   There are many people in this town who had problems obtaining services.  So they should speak up and Complain!!!!!!!!!!  open the public's problems to Congress and local government officials. 


Claudia Bertrand

Vernon, CT, Disabled

I worked in corporate America for 28-30 years.  I paid into Social Security and Medicare for all of those years.  In 2000 I was diagnosed with severe lumbar stenosis.  Due to the fact that I already had a 90 degree scoliosis no surgeon would even dare operate on my back for the painful stenosis.  I tried medications, land and water physical therapy, and injections in my spine, but nothing would take away the terrible nerve pain I was experiencing.In 2005, after struggling to work every day for four to five years, my doctors insisted that I apply for Social Security Disability.  After 18 months I finally was approved for SSD in 2005.  I now depend on SSD for my income.  And living in CT, one of the most expensive states in the union, it is not easy to make ends meet.I also now depend on Medicare for my only medical insurance option, because I cannot afford private health insurance with my SSD income.I do not have cable TV because I cannot afford it.  I only have a cell phone for emergencies and do not use it on a regular basis, again because I cannot afford it.  Some months I have to put food on my credit card because I cannot afford to buy food until I received my SSD again the next month.People like myself should not have to suffer even more with future cuts to Social Security because our government used the Social Security fund for other items.  If the government had left the Social Security money for Social Security payments for people who have put into Social Security, we would not be in the mess we are in now.We need to fight these cuts with all the might we have!  The government stole our money that we put into the Social Security system, and now we are being penalized?  If I had put that money into a retirement account I would be living far better than I am today.  But it is a mandatory law that you MUST put into Social Security.  Thus it should also be mandatory that the government provide us with our SS income!!Bad management on the part of the government of the Social Security fund should not translate into making the senior and disabled population the scapegoats!!   


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