Share Your Story: The Flip Side of the Coin
How have domestic programs helped you or someone you know? Why is it important to you that Congress protect these programs?
- Head Start makes it possible for me to go to work, knowing that my daughter is cared for, safe and getting a jump start on her education.
- Without unemployment insurance, my family and I would never have been able to make our rent payment when I lost my job.
- I worked for 30 years, and Social Security has helped me stay afloat in retirement, without leaning too hard on my children for support.
- Medicaid and Medicare together provide my aging mother with the range of care she needs, including her long term care services.
Irresponsible spending cuts are threatening domestic programs that support low-income people like Social Security, Medicaid, Head Start, child care assistance, family planning, Pell Grants, housing assistance, maternal and child health care, Medicare, and unemployment insurance, and more. We know that cuts to these programs will have an extraordinarily harmful effect on women and families across the country. It's a price we can't afford to pay.
Hedge fund managers and CEOs with corporate jets are one side of the coin. The rest of us are the Flip Side of the Coin.
Please share with us how domestic programs have helped you and your family.
Please note: The views expressed in the stories below are those of the authors themselves and do not necessarily reflect the opinions of the National Women's Law Center. All statements of fact in these stories have been provided by the individual authors, and the National Women's Law Center cannot and does not vouch for their accuracy. The Center will compile the stories and may use them, in whole or in part, in our advocacy efforts.
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Rachel WS
Narragansett, Rhode Island, Tattoo Artist/Executive Administrator for Sociologists for Women in Society (SWS)
I wrote the following, which I used and handed out when I testified at the Rhode Island State House for the Rhode Island Poverty Institute. Unfortunately, the bill did not pass, and I still find myself "trapped." It is very frustrating, and I am not sure how to get this issue examined on a larger level. I find myself getting ready to refuse a raise again this fall, and would appreciate any assistance in getting this issue on the table. It effects SO many women and children, and I rarely hear it being talked about.Thank you for your time and consideration, and thank you for all you do.~Rachel ************************************************************House Finance CommitteeHearing on H5206Testimony of Rachel ******April 12, 2011 Chairman Melo and Members of the Committee: My name is Rachel **********, and I am testifying here today in support of Representative Diaz’s Bill, H5206 . Please let me begin by introducing myself. I am a resident of ********, Rhode Island. I have a Bachelors Degree, and taught High School for several years after College. Currently I am the Executive Administrator for a large, international non-profit, called ************, as well as a licensed Tattoo Artist. More importantly, I am a single mother of two children. My daughter is six and my son is three. Until two years ago, I had no experience with any of the state’s public benefit programs. I lived the “American Dream:” was married with two children, owned and operated a contracting business with my husband, was a homeowner, and was generally doing very well and living a comfortable life. Unfortunately, life has its own ideas and often doesn’t go as planned. Within a matter of one day, my life as I knew it fell apart. I left my husband and suddenly found myself a single mother of two very young children. Having been a stay-at-home-mom for four years, I had no employment outside the home. Additionally, due to the unfortunate circumstances of my situation, I was also left with literally NO money to my name. Finding myself in a desperate situation, I quickly and humbly became acquainted with several state benefit programs that are set up to help people in my position. Programs that were described as “stepping-stones.” Despite the difficult economic timing (my divorce coincided with the beginning of the economic fallout,) I was able to find a job. I worked at Pick Pockets selling falafel and working the cash register, and fortunately the job allowed me the flexibility to be available as the custodial parent. I continued to diligently hunt for a job that would utilize my college education and skills. Soon, I found the position that I currently hold at ****** as the Executive Administrator. Although I was grateful to have the Rhode Island Works cash assistance program as a last resort at first, the payment is so tiny that we could not live on it. Thus I was very happy to get a job that allowed me to no longer need Cash Assistance. However, even with this job, I still needed Child Care Assistance and Rite Care Health Insurance. I soon found that even with these supports, I was unable to make ends meet on the wages of these two jobs alone. I picked up a third job at night as a cocktail waitress. Although I STILL couldn’t exactly make ends meet, the third job brought me closer and allowed me to stay off of any further state assistance.However, soon after I began working the third job, I was informed by the state that I no longer qualified for the Child Care Assistance Program. I was making roughly $100 over the eligibility limit each month. That is $25/week too much. I was told that I would no longer receive Child Care Assistance. With the Child Care Assistance, I paid $50/week for childcare for my two children in day care; when I was no longer eligible for the program, my child care costs would have gone up to $330/week. That is $1320 a month! I did not earn nearly enough money to be able to pay for childcare on my own. I was faced with a difficult decision - to either quit the third job, not be able to make ends meet, but still receive the Child Care Assistance - or keep the three jobs and be cut off from the Child Care Assistance, leaving me unable to even pay for daycare (let alone rent, food, car loan and other necessary expenses.) Finding myself stuck between a rock and a hard place, I opted to quit the cocktail waitress job and remain on the Child Care Assistance Program. This left me charging groceries on my credit card and borrowing money to pay rent each month. I find myself going deeper and deeper into debt. My instincts drive me to want to be successful, independent, and financially responsible. I want to be working my hardest to get out of the position I am in, however I have been forced into a place where I can only work jobs that keep me close to the poverty level. I resigned myself to the notion that I would have to wait until both of my children are in school full time before I could reach the level of success that I strive for. Only then would the burden of affording full time daycare be lifted off of me. To further compound my problem, my employer offers annual raise reviews. Sadly, I cannot even accept a minimal raise, as it would put me above the Child Care eligibility limit. I cannot make a DOLLAR over the limit or I get cut off of Child Care Assistance. This literally traps people such as myself in near-poverty. This system is fatally flawed…it does not serve its purpose as a stepping-stone. Moreover, it feels like it is set up to keep people in their respective places. Representative Diaz’s bill would allow me to earn up to $8,000 extra a year without losing my child care subsidy. This would make a huge difference for me and my family.I was raised to believe that if one works hard, one can accomplish anything. I have felt very isolated and extremely frustrated with this issue for several years now, however it affects SO MANY people like my children and I. If this program were to be set up in the manner described in this bill, it would transform it from a system of entrapment to the stepping-stone it is supposed to be. Not only would the quality of life improve for so many families like mine, it would allow people to work hard to get to the point where they eventually don’t need child care assistance anymore. Everybody wins. I just want to work hard. Hard work should be rewarded, not penalized. Please consider what this bill means for so many people. I do not want to remain a statistic. Thank you very much for your time.
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Elizabeth C.
New York, N.Y.,
I am grateful for the Healthy New York Program, without it I would have no health insurance. I have 2 children, one with disabilities, who count on me. I am a divorced middle aged single years old head of household, and due to my divorce, I have no maintenance, no health care, and very little money for child support which I have to supplement with my shrinking and meager savings, I my rental apartment goes up 7.5% each year, I have no car, and I had to give my former husband money from the IRA's I had from the job I held for many years before my children were born instead of a pension. I hope to be able to find work that will allow me and my children to live, I will never be able to retire. I hope that with the health insurance I will stay well enough to work as long as possible. My only hope for my old age is medicare and social security, I have worked hard all my life, but I will have no other alternative. You must preserve these vital social safety nets for the citizens of this country.People like Rupert Murdoch feel accountable to no one and "Entitled" to everything, even the private e-mails of murder children, apparently he feels he is above the law, and has engaged in unscrupulous practices in business as well. The media he now dominates is sympathetic to the so called "tea party" which seeks to cut so called "entitlements" for the hard working citizens of this country. The so called "entitlements" are the social safety net paid for by us, the American people. I remember when the social security system had a surplus, I believe it was during the Nixon or Regan Administration that money was taken away social security and used for another purpose for which it was not intended and never returned, and as a result there isn't enough money for us today. The Republican's should account for it, where is our money, they misappropriated it.Changes in our laws by our politicians allowed these foreign super rich people to buy up our industries, and control whole sectors like the media, Large wealthy foreign companies gave money to many of our politicians both Republicans and Democrats, and it has paid off for them. They now pay less taxes than they should, and are getting the entitlement to be treated as citizens through the former American corporations they have taken over while they fire American workers. They are trying to take away the rights of American citizens to unionize, and receive the money that they paid out of their hard earned dollars for a social safety net in their times of need. There is talk of selling off America's infrastructure to foreign companies, such as Amtrak, and it's called "privatizing" by them, if we let that happen there will be a lot more jobs lost to Americans. We should require foreign companies not to eliminate American jobs, and pay their fair share of taxes.
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DEE DEE
Miramar, Florida, Administrative Assistant
I've tried to contact so many programs trying to get help but all said that they don't have any funds available. So I'm looking at being jobless with 3 children and nowhere to stay because I won't be able to pay for my bills without having a job. This is something serious that needs to be addressed since it's not just one person facing this challenge but millions of parents. I would appreciate it if I can get some type of answers. Where do I go from there? What do I do? Who do I turn to?
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Whitney M
Gainesville, FL, paralegal
So many ways my family and I have benefitted!I certainly never planned on my partner getting sick during my first pregnancy. But it happened, he lost his job, and we lost our insurance. Medicaid allowed me to have two healthy and happy pregnancies. Both my children are on Medicaid-funded forms of health insurance now. My daughter receives Social Security from her biological father, who became 100% disabled shortly after her birth. This money pays for her childcare. She is about to start Headstart this year. Essentially, the government has invested in my family and in me.. Because of this investment, we've been able to get back on our feet. We've been able to have two thriving, happy, healthy children who are very well-educated. We've been healthy enough to give back to our community through activism and volunteerism.
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Anne Smith
San Francisco, CA,
I, like every other working American, paid for my unemployment insurance and am entitled (yeah I said it) to those funds when I'm unemployed, which I've been for the last year until I started a new job today. If it hadn't been for my unemployment compensation I wouldn't have been able to afford food and shelter, let alone the internet and phone access and hot water and soap I needed to find this job. Does DC want everyone who's not a millionaire to just starve on the streets or what?
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Phyllis Raabe
New Orleans, Louisiana, sociologist (retired)
During my marriage, I worked as a part-time adjunct professor because of child-rearing. After our divorce, I continued teaching at the same university where I could gain health insurance. Despite being an adjunct, I needed to teach at the fulltime level in order to have health insurance coverage. Reaching 65 gave me access to both Medicare and Social Security, and these have enabled me to retire from fulltime teaching. Now that I am 70, what would I do without Medicare and Social Security? These are essential foundations for most seniors in this country. Perhaps the small wealthy elite do not understand the lives of most Americans: we need these governmental policies. And, our adult children need these policies, because otherwise they would have the stress and strain of trying to aid us.
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AEH
Cedar Grove, North Carolina, research tech
I'm 55, a cancer survivor, & I am holding my breath, hoping my job will survive. I work in medical research on a project that would have an enormous benefit for a large number of humans - but the funding is in jeopardy. I simply do not understand Republicans that want to take us back to pre-FDR days; the only explanation that makes any sense to me is that the wealthy drivers of the "tea party" movement have theirs ($$$$) & sincerely do not give a damn about those of us who, if disaster strikes, would need unemployment insurance in order to eat, or Social Security income to avoid elder years of misery, or Medicare/Medicaid in order to get even basic medical attention. The widening chasm between those people -- the " I do not give a damn" types -- & the rest of us scares me.
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Richard Conn
Fort Collins, CO, retired
I'm 81. Since April 1st I've paid out $800 to Medicare having numerous health problems. Do the math: Divide 800 by 0.2. That's 4000: the amount I would have paid out of pocket. Enough said.
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JoeGreen
Boyce, Louisiana, Pastor
I am 71 years old and have worked all of my life serving my country and paying my taxes, because I believed that when I got old my country would be there for me. Mr. President please don't let no one destory you with their greed for more money for the rich.I will keep you and your family in my prayers.Poe Green, PastorSaint Matthew Baptist Church
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Emilie M
Delmar, NY, Caseworker
I lost my job in January 2010. I was in a car accident that left me without a vehicle, which my job depended on. I caught the H1N1 virus, which caused pneumonia and forced me into the hospital for a week. And I was looking at taking even more time off, as I was about 7 months pregnant at the time. I was horribly stressed from trying to get to work and trying to do work, while trying to keep up on my pre-natal care. Without unemployment, I wouldn't have been able to eat and pay my bills. After trying to navigate to medical appointments and interviews at DSS, in the winter in Buffalo, I missed the chance to attend the childbirth class and breastfeeding class that my other mom friends had gone to. I was totally unprepared when my doctor told me that I would be induced and even less prepared when 15 hours later I was wheeled in for an emergency c-section. My angel was born with fluid in her lungs and a blockage in her intestines, but the doctors and nurses were amazing - she is laying next to me now healthy and perfect. I cried when I saw the bill from the NICU, but thankful that Medicaid covered it all. When I was able to bring her home, it was WIC that kept my cupboards stocked and gave me the support and education in breastfeeding that I had missed out on. Even with the assistance though, we weren't making it financially and had to move in with my parents. People don't realize that it takes money to get a job. I was lucky a year after my daughter was born to learn that I was being offered a job with our county's Child Protective Services office (With some thanks to my 95 on the civil service exam). But, if I didn't have the unemployment coming in, I wouldn't have had money for the interview suit and parking in the urban where the office is and I definitely wouldn't have had the down payment for day care. I am ecstatic that I no longer need to use these services, but am thankful that these services were there when I needed and don't want to see anyone denied them.
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